When we know we have compromised a relationship by breaching boundaries, guilt makes its way into the garden of our conscious. Healthy guilt potentially turns toxic and becomes shame. Shame takes root as creative avoidance of the issue or the other we have transgressed takes priority over repentance and reconciliation.
Shame will drive us to disconnect and hide. This separation is the point sin really makes destructive progress – and it’s through shame.
Here is the good news. We have a triune God who pursues us because He values relationship and connection over failing to obey orders. Consider how God pursues and remains relational with us in Eden. “But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, “Where are you?”. Genesis 3:9 ESV.
Not “What have you done?!.”
Not “You idiots. You wrecked it!”
Not “Get out of my sight!.
Not “Bye!”
No, He seeks reconciliation. He seeks discussion. He longs to address and heal shame. He doesn’t sugar-coat the breach but longs to discuss and process the longings of our heart. “He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?””
Genesis 3:11 ESV
Beloved, the lie shame would have us believe when we have DONE wrong is that we ARE wrong and there is no chance of reconciliation. I believe God has gone to extreme measures to show us that nothing can separate us from His love. He still pursues us to bless us and invites us into the Divine Dance of Love which God is by His very being.
I dare you to silence the voice of shame and step out in courageous vulnerability and watch His response.
Bless you! Dave