Church bells that toll for both weddings and funerals.

Church bells that toll for both weddings and funerals.

In these strange-lit hours of power’s transition, we find ourselves inhabitants of the same city but readers of different maps. The stone-truth stands before us: celebration and desolation walk the same streets, drink from the same wells, breathe the same...
Losing God and Cradling Grief – Podcast Interview

Losing God and Cradling Grief – Podcast Interview

I appeared on a podcast to talk about my life, faith and poetry. The NINE LIVES podcast centres around the Enneagram. (I identify as leading with the 9.)  If you are into podcasts, you might like it, especially the 2nd episode where I share honestly on some tough...
A LACK OF ELDERS.  How we desperately need to grow up.

A LACK OF ELDERS. How we desperately need to grow up.

This was the alarming start of a recent conversation.”Is it just me, or are older guys willing to be mentors really hard to find?””Yep.” I replied, “At this age and stage of life, they are harder to find.” Let’s call this...
When it doesn’t feel authentic, try it anyway.

When it doesn’t feel authentic, try it anyway.

There is an emerging area of leadership practice and theory called Authentic Leadership. If you’ve studied leadership principles for a while you’ll know they are often relabelled (and repriced) social science theories. After all, leadership is grounded in...
You’ve been lied too, and might want to get down… right now.

You’ve been lied too, and might want to get down… right now.

See the spike on that graph? It’s labeled Mt. Stupid. Right now, that’s pretty much where most of our COVID-19 related posts are situated. The Dunning-Kruger Effect illustrates how most of us approach knowledge. It starts with knowing nothing. Next minute,...
Sort Your Ship Out – Navigating Relational Seas

Sort Your Ship Out – Navigating Relational Seas

(4-minute read) “I don’t get it, I thought we were friends! I leave the team, and boom, I’m cut off and no one contacts me anymore.” Sound familiar? In working with leaders across organisations, you come across many cases of ‘disappointment’ stemming...
An open letter to that frustrated guy around 30.

An open letter to that frustrated guy around 30.

It’s a confronting, tough and frustrating time. It’s filled with new energy and a different type of the drive to what we experienced in our teens and twenties. Guys between 28 and 32 (roughly) who hit their thirties tend to make major, life-altering...
Don’t Care and Can’t Care… They’re not the same.

Don’t Care and Can’t Care… They’re not the same.

Person A: “I’m in pain. I need help.” Person B: “OK… I see,” Person A: “OK??! Well, I’m telling you because I need you to be here for me. I need someone to care… and possibly help me too!” Right here, at this point, any number...
I Was a Willing Sacrifice

I Was a Willing Sacrifice

As a follow up to last week’s essay and articles on the dark side of organisational sacrificial, I wanted to add a couple of thoughts on the dynamics of organisational wounding. Because I think there are two main reasons we might find ourselves sacrificed for...